A very touching SMS from my Wife..

My wife just send me a very touching SMS, I just needs to record the SMS here, so it will kept forever

Previously I feel safe bcos there r alwiz 2 sets of foot steps,
one is mind and d other is Jesus.
Dar, with u cumg in 2 my life, now my life is complete and fill with contentment and happiness.
I am really thankful to God for sending u and bay,
now there will always be more and more foot steps in this happy family of ours and I believed,
just like our prayer,
we will growth in size and in love with Him guiding and leading us..
Darling I will always love u and walk with u till the last step in our life,
Love u darling..

Love is decision, not by feeling!!

I just attended a Pre-Marriage course with my soon to be Wife, Winne, and one things we learn from the course, is Love is always base on decision, not by feeling, this has come to surprise to many of us, for me, how could One in love with someout without feeling in the first place? Right.

But at the end, I learned that if Love purely base on Feeling, that one can easily fall in, and one could easily fall out, as we human being can't control our feeling, but we can decide to continue to love in regardless of what feeling we have..

I posted my view on this on facebook, this is feedback on my friends on this same topic, some is very interesting.

Khoo Chen Shiang is Learn that Love is always base on decision, and not by feeling. In any situation, we always has to decide base on our desire or base on love

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Richa Dwivedi at 7:51pm May 11

I don't get it. Does it mean you're in love because you've "decided" to be in love rather than you "feel" in love?? Doesn't make sense! I'm confused...

Khoo Chen Shiang at 10:51pm May 11

If love purely base on feeling, that it's easy to "fall in" and so does it will easy "fall out". For example, if my partner late of our date, I can be angry and decide to raise my voice to ask why she's late, or I can decide to love, and ask with concern voice, is she ok, and etc.

I could decide to always spend my weekend with friend for few round of Golf, or I could decide to take 1-2 weekend off with my wife just do nothing or cook dishes together..

A lot of marriage couple are "seen" from outside eye they are marry, but in fact they are marriage individual, again a decision they made..

Annie Tan at 10:59pm May 11

fren, don't look at other ppl, just be happy with what you are doing and live with it. God is there for you, He never take an off day! :-)

Wong Yeow Soon at 11:03pm May 11

Hey man, its oo complicated. Love is feeling, understanding, caring, dedicating. Over the years, you will find out, whether you love or beloved,it's a burden. Moreover, whatever decision you make for your future, married or single, you'll be regretted for the rest of your life.

Luckchai Lerchaichanakul at 12:04am May 12

I'm sure James has lots (if not too many) of feeling on this luv based on the story developed steps by steps from James' blogs over the whole period. But after all the loving feeling, one has to decide whether to commit to this love or else... It's the life long commitment that need more than just feeling which can change over time...

Jamie Lim at 12:05am May 12

Emmm... Then am gotta repeat my principle @ L.O.V.E again... 1st r'ship = she luv u more than u lov her but cudn't work out... 2nd r'ship = u luv her more than she luv u but still cudn't work out... 3rd r'ship usually it's the time to get marry = both luvES are 50% 50% but it's juz the timing is rite >>> P/S: Emmm... That's the love on decision lol i guess :P

Wong Yeow Soon at 9:21am May 12

Jamie, i heard this before, but i think this is some kind of nonsence to me. When it's come to love or true love, there is no percentage to each other, somehow or rather, you die for it.

Khoo Chen Shiang at 9:28am May 12

Answer to Jamie, nope, I Love my wife Winnie very much, and Love can't be quantifiable, thus it's pointless to compare u current love with previous lovers. Live the moment, and treasure you love now.

Luckchai get my message 100% correctly!

After marriage, when everyone back to realities, we people easily takes things for granted, and sooner or later, we start blaming our partner that he/she is not as romantic as before, and surprisingly we will hear the same from our partner, haha but all this can change if we wants to change, again decision,decision, and decisions....

We could decide to give a a simple morning kiss to our love one, before we go to work, a Call to ask how his/her day in the office, a surprise visit to his/her office for lunch, or just simple lying down at Sofa, under a blanket, and watch a good movie together..and soon we will get back the romantic feeling we used to have..

Joe Heath at 9:47am May 12

Sounds like you could have a career writing that gobbledygook you find in the horoscope section of the newspaper... ;o)

James Khoo, Agony Aunt & Feng Shui Toilet Master

*joke* :op

Khoo Chen Shiang at 9:58am May 12

haha, thanks for teaching me new English word today, "Gobbledygook"..

Joe Heath at 10:19am May 12

It's a great word. I challenge you to use it in conversation at least 10 times today

Annie Tan at 2:37pm May 12

Fully agreeable with u James!

Wedding Invitation

Because you have shared in our lives by your friendship and love we,

Winnie Wong Wai Lin

&

James Khoo Chen Shiang

cordially invite you to share

the beginning of our new life together when we exchange marriage vows

on Saturday, 4th July 2009, 10:30am
@ Church of St Francis Xavier,
135, Jalan Gasing, 46000 Petaling Jaya, Selangor.

follow-by luncheon

on Saturday, 4th July 2009, 12:30pm
@ Jaya Palace Restaurant,Ground Flour Wisma LYL,
No 12 Jalan 51A/223, Petaling Jaya.

Location Map for ST Francis Xavier (SFX) Church

Location Map for Jaya Palace Restaurant

What is Love?

Quoted from Bible (New International Version), 1 Corinthians 13

Love If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. ¹When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.

And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

Note: Picture above is our is our wedding ring..

Friends, we are officially engaged!..

And Yes!! We getting married soon..

[Tips] An easy to remember and yet "strong" password

My girlfriend have multiple passwords for multiple website, email, and desktop login, and one of common phase I hear from her is "oh oh, I forgot my password lieu!", and usually she will tear her hair up, with a very worry face (as shown in picture above)..so, here's my tips to her on creating an easy to remember yet "security" strong password, I hope it will benefits others as well.

1. Think of a short phrase that easy for u to remember, type out the phrase without space. For example,"YouJumpIJump", "Whyusolazyanddirty"
   
2. Append the phrase with the website you wants to log into, for example "YouJumpIJumpFacebook"
3. For every phrase, replace all vowels to a special character that easy for u to remember, for example:
   

• "a" with "^" or "@"
• "e" with "3"
• "i" with numeric "1"
• "o" with numeric zero, i.e. "0", or with "()"
  
• "u" with "*"

4. Thus, phrase above will translated with "Y()*J*mp1J*mpF@c3b()()k".. easy isn't it..

Here are some more example:

"YouJumpIJumpHotmail" -> "Y()*J*mp1J*mpH()tm@1l"
"iLoveDurianYahoo" -> "1L()v3D*r1@nY@h()()"
"JamesLoveUXP" -> "J@m3sL()v3*XP"

Hope u like it..

PS: The fact is my darling did not tear her hair, I just make it up to spice up the story, sorry Darling....ha ha..

A little fun game for my Girl Friend

My girl friend will be away from me for few days, so I wrote her a letter which read :

Darling

Warning, you have 5 minutes to find out the hidden message from the picture below, and send the hidden message to +60-16-XXXXXXX before 10:50pm.. failing to do so.. Muah ha ha ha..

You could request up to three hints to decrypt this message, to request a hint, type
“Help me Dar, hint hint please” to +6016XXXXXXX.

• One kiss will be charge for this first hint given out
• 10 kisses will be charge for the second hint
• 20 kisses + 30 minutes massage from you will be charge if third hint given out..

Good Luck!!!

So, to my dear reader, could you decrypt the message from the picture above, here are same tips I given out to my girl friend (Note, to solve the puzzle, it's best to print out the picture on piece of paper);

1. A lot of people still believe that the world is "Flat"
2. When attempt to solve a problem, one must consider every possible angle
3. Lay the letter flat on your hand, about 30-40cm away from your body, close one of your eye, slowly raise your hand up till the letter is same height with you eye.

Cheers

A very special Valentine Gift

Last Saturday, I received a very special Valentine Gift from my darling. A nicely wrap box with two T-shirts inside, one small, and one XXL..

The small T-Shirt have a cartoon drawing of me, backpacking..

And the T-Shirt Read, "He is mine, Don't Touch!"

The XXL T-shirt have a sexy drawing of my darling, Winnie wearing bikini, sunbathing at the beach.

And the T-Shirt read: "She mine, don't touch!"

Thanks darling, this is the best Valentine gift I ever receive, is so creative and really touch by your effort (See Note) of making this very special T-Shirt.. Love u!

Note A: To make this special T-Shirt,

1. Winnie have to go to Kodak to take picture herself.
   
2. Then, she needs to rush to KL Central point, find an artist to draw us, per her instruction, i.e me backpacking, and she's is sunbathing.
   
3. Winnie then needs to choose two good T-Shirt for us.
4. Take the T-Shirt, the painiting to a printing shop, type out the text, choose fonts, color, layout..and finally print on the T-shirt.
   
5. It take her a total 4-5 hours to do all the above. A project well executed.
   
6. Idea above is copy right to Winnie..do write to us if u wants use the idea.
   Any donation are welcome...haha.

Note B: For me, I have give my best effort of making our first Valentine a very special one, Winnie give me score of 90/100 of my effort..and this will be secret between me and her, however, do write to me if u interested to find out..I might share u a tips or two..

Lazy afternoon with my girl friend,

Today is Malaysia public holiday, my darling Winnie decided to cook a yummy yummy lunch for me today. So, we both went to market early morning, bought some fresh vegetables, chicken, some prawns, and some cooking ingredients, such as cooking oil, soya source, garlic, chicken stock, and etc.

I help her to prepare the food, and she did most of the cooking. The dish is simple and nice, we both enjoy this quality time together. I feels very 幸福 (happiness). Thank God that, I have found you, Winnie. I wished that we will have many many such beautiful moments together in many many years to come.

Love you!

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我的初恋 - 海珊 - Part IV

The important day finally come, I had a cold shower,putting on my new jean and cloth, and ask my friend to help me "styled my hair. I looks into mirror and told myself, "yes James, u can do it, u are good looking, and cute (i.e ugly but adorable, haha)". I am ready.

While at the school hall, I am getting nervous, and my palm start sweating, and getting bit wet. Stupid James, cool down, Ok. How u expect to hand hold her hand with ur slippy hand. Cool down.. Hm, where is 珊? is she ok?

Found her at the back stage. 珊 have two stage performances, a group dance, and a solo dance, she is rehearsal some dance routine, which take my breath away, glamorous and enchanting. I just stand a one corner, and admiring her from a distance. Finally, she notice me, I then smiled at her, give a "V" hand signal to her, wishing her luck for the performance, she smile and acknowledge it. I quietly walk back to my seat, as the show about to start.

珊 solo dance performance wins a lot of applaud and cheers from audiences, I notice a lot of of my senior start noticing her, and whispering who is the girl, some even say must invite her for the lover bridge game later. O oh, no good no good..

When the DJ announced the lover bridge game about to start, and asking all of us to get our partner ready, I quickly runs toward 珊, wanted to invite her for the game, however, 珊 is already been approached by 5-6 seniors, and they all are popular and handsome then me. 珊 didn't notice me at all, knowing the chance to invite her for the game is very slim, I am sad, and disappointed, quietly walk away.


Suddenly, someone hold my hand..

"Hey, where have u been!!!, I been waiting for u to invite me for the game, you stupid!", 珊 said in a cute voice, with the tone pretending she is upset..


Then she give me a light kiss on my cheek, and said. "btw, u are very handsome today.."

"But, only for today..haha", 珊 giggled.

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Gong Xi Gong Xi 2009

Coolboy and family (i.e Mimi) would like to wish u and your family a very happy, romantic, prosperous Moo Moo Chinese New year...

我的初恋 - 海珊 - Part III

珊 and I stayed at school hostel (don't worry, guy and girl do stay in different dorms), we start getting very close to each other after the "Express Lunch Delivery" incident. We went to school together every morning, went to library after school to finish our homework. and, we usually have casual walk around our school after our dinner. We chit chat, enjoy sunset, admiring each other during those walk. People just envy or jealous about two of us, even our teachers also know there is "little love in the air" between me and 珊.

There are many times during those casual walk I really wants to hold 珊's hand, like pretend to fall down, hope she will try to catch me, or try to get my hand very close to her, but all fails, one reason is I am still very shy, and the other reason is Chong Hua high school is very strict, any boy and girl get caught of holding hand by our discipline teacher will call into her office, and be prepared to nag by her for at least two hours, and worse, both parents will be notified, haha.

I know my only chance to hold her hand legally is to invite her to play lover bridge game at the Chinese new years party, in three weeks times. FYI, the Chinese new year party is yearly event organized by students who stay at school hostel (There are about 1000 of us stay at school hostel that year). The party usually run one week before Chinese new year. Teacher are invited to the party, with yummy foods and drinks, stage performances by students (comedy, singing, dance, magic show, and etc) from different dorms, and most importantly some party games.


The most anticipated event for us (well, for guy at least) is the "LoverBridge" game at the end of the party, where Guy are allows to invite any girl, hand hold the girl to quickly go through "Lover bridge" (form by a group students) before music stop. When the music stop, the bridge will lower down, and any pair caught in the bridge will be out of the game, and the game continue..kind of childish from today standarad, I know.. But that time, we consider that is a very big event for "Single" Guy like us..

To attend the party, and to make me stands out compare with others, I needs the following:
a) A new shining cloth and jean
b) A smooth and clean face,

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A) Getting a new Shining Cloth and Jean

"Mom, can I have RM50?", I asked my Mom.

"RM50!!!!! What for!! U think is easy to earn RM50 ah, u know how much I can bough for family RM50...blah blah blah.......", Mom scolded me.

"I needs to buy new cloth and jean..", I said

"New cloths!!!! you should have enough cloths and jeans in your closet. I just bough u new jean 6 months ago, OK! why u so so greedy and selfish!!! ....blah blah....", Mom nagging..

"Our school's Chinese New Year party is coming in two weeks time", I said

"So what, can't ur wear your exsting cloth..blah blah blah...blah", Mom continue to nag me

"But Mom! I have to wear a bit smart to impress a girl I like loh, her name is 海珊", I said

"Oh! really?!!!! OK, OK, here is RM50", Mom give me RM50, "Now, tell me more about this girl 海珊, is she pretty, how many brother and sisters she have, where do she stay, blah blah.."

"Mom!"..

"OK OK, will not ask any more question, when u will bring back the girl for mom to see.?"

"Bye, Mom.."

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我的初恋 - 海珊 - Part II

珊 not only a pretty girl, she is friendly, helpful and very smart, all this have make her a very popular girl in our school. For me, because I am bit shy that time (Remember, my face full of pimples that time) I am just admired her secretly, observed her from a distance, and jealous by myself when she start talking a bit friendly to other guys.

Our second magical moments happen three weeks later..

"Everyone, do finish up your essay, and submit to my desk by today", our Chinese language teacher remind us, before she end the class.

Everyone has finished their essay, and rushing for lunch. Except 珊..still working hard to finish her essay.

"Still have a lot to write?", I ask.

"Yep", she answer quietly.

"Ubi Khoo, hurry up, we all waiting for u, hungry lah!!!!", my friends urging me to go to cafeteria for our lunch..

"Ok, Ok, coming", me walking unwillingly toward my friends.

While at the cafeteria, I start getting very concern about her, as we only have one hour lunch break. I am worried that she might don't able to take her lunch before our afternoon class start.

So I excuse myself, order some light foods and drink, and quickly rush back (is more like running 100 meter in 10 seconds) to our classroom, and found out that 珊 still working very hard on her essay.

I walk quietly toward her, slowly and nervously hand over the foods and drink to her, and say "Err....this is for u.."

She first stare the food and drink, and then she looks into my eye, smile and say "Thanks, we share share the food, ok!", Bingo!..

Then ..the magic just happen..

She slowly raise her hand, to tidy up my shirt, and comb my hair a bit..
"Next time, u don't have to run, ok."

Wow, I am just stun, like forever, and no idea what to do next..she just smile away.

From that moment, I know I am in love with her, and she soft of "confirm" that I am her Boyfriend.

However, we only start holding each other hand about two weeks later.

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我的初恋 - 海珊

Do u on and off miss your puppy love? And when u do, do u smile of those happy moments u both share or those little secret only and u and her know? Do u occasionally still hope that one day, u could meet up with her again, even after many many years u have lost contact with her?

Well, I do. Her name is 海珊 (i.e Coral), and here is our story.

1989, I am 17, face full of pimples, am study at Seremban Chong Hua High School. 海珊 joined our class (Form 5 Science Class-B) after long holiday break.

"Class, we have a new student join us today, her name is 海珊, and previously she is from..", our teacher introduce her, while I still half awake, and half asleep.

"Ubi (my nick name, i.e Potato), wake up! got Leng Lui (pretty girl) joining our class..", my friend Thong try to awake me...

"huh....Where?"

"Hi everyone, my name is 海珊, glad to joining this class..."

Wow, such a lovely and cute cute voice, fully awake now,Oh my god! she is indeed a pretty girl and till now, I still remember her first smile. When she smile to every one of us, I feels that our class room is brighter, warmer, and fresher, as there is a little Sun, shining through from her head. I swear I didn't exaggerate any of this. this is what I truely feels then, maybe this is love at first sight?

"珊, u could sit beside Khoo..", did I hear that correctly? my teacher just ask her to sit beside me..wow..thanks teacher, muak muak.. thanks very much. I promise I will not sleep again in your class.

"Hi, 珊 here, nice to meet you.",

"Hi, my name is Khoo.. ", When I am about to start my usual James Bond style introduction, i.e Khoo, James Khoo.. ..

"And we all call him Ubi", Thong interrupted, stupid Thong, spoil my image..

She chuckle a bit, and give her right hand toward me.. I just sit that, admiring her smile, and no idea what to do next, till Thong smack my head. "Yoi!, Stupid, she wants to shake your hand..gentleman a little lah"..

"Oh, Oh, sorry, nice to meet you!", nervously give my left hand toward her, and about to shake her hand, ops! found out given wrong hand, quickly change to my right hand instead, and she is doing the same... and then, our first magical moment just happen..

We looks into each other..
Eye to Eye.
Then time just stop.
The whole class room just have me and her,
And, we shake hand, smile, and laugh at each other.
And this is how we first meet.

To be continue..